Boomers On Vacation Aren't Making Whoopee

Sunscreen and cameras will be stuffed into the suitcase but massage oil and lingerie are likely to be left behind when Canadian baby boomers go on vacation.  This was reported in an article by Shannon Proudfoot of CanWest News Service.  If that's what going on, or more accurately, not going on in Canada, is the rest of the world behaving much differently?

Less than half of Canadian baby boomers (43 per cent) say they have sex while on holidays, which means 57% aren't. And, if they aren't having sex on vacation, chances are good they are not having sex at home either. 

The people surveyed say they have sex more often in the spring and summer months, but one-third have vacation sex only "sometimes," and 12 per cent say they rarely or never engage in adult pursuits while away from the daily grind.

Fairmont Hotels and Resorts are offering a variety of amenities to help fan the flames. Chocolate-dipped strawberries, chilled champagne and late checkout times are popular, while the Fairmont Chicago provides personal Kama Sutra products with bed turndown. The Fairmont Banff Springs ups the ante with their "Diamonds are Forever" package, including a personal concierge, gourmet tasting menu and a half-carat Canadian diamond for dessert.  Something tells me it would take more than an half-carat diamond to rekindle the passion.

This is sad but unfortunately very true. One of the Fairmont's most popular amenities remains high-speed Internet access, says Brian Richardson, vice-president of marketing and communications, suggesting people aren't having sex because they can't turn off work.

"That speaks to a general reality today, which is that we are all time-impoverished," he says. "It's tough to get away, even when you are away."

Pega Ren, a Vancouver sex therapist blames boomers' dearth of sex at home or away partly on our "sex-phobic" society, which she says doesn't teach people enough about sex or sexual communication to keep the fires lit over time.  On top of that, unrealistic media portrayals of sex and romance make ordinary people feel inadequate and pump them up with unrealistic expectations, she says.

Well, whatever the reasons, allowing sex to disappear from your relationship is very bad.  When sex isn't there to bring two people close, other, not so pleasant things, start to fill that empty gap.  Loss of intimacy creates disconnect and disconnect causes any relationship to unravel.

So, if you want to keep your sex life passionate, or, you want to resurrect what is lost, talk about it, work at it and get professional help to get you on the right track.  Sex and intimacy are way too important to let go.

Comments

[Rhea]

What an interesting survey.