Cougar Women Taking Over the Jungle

Feast your eyes on the latest cougar couple.  Rachel Hunter, who is now 37, and her new boyfriend 24 year old Edmonton Oiler Jarret Stoll.  As we look at this picture, can't we imagine ourselves enjoying the erotic pleasures of a fantastically sexy romantic interlude? 

It's funny how things change.  When I was 30 I loved older men.  I looked for a man who was 45 or 50.  I loved their, sophistication, their charm and their knowledge.  I was like a sponge drinking up whatever brilliance they were willing to share. Sometimes I felt like Eliza Doolittle, being tutored by Professor Higgins. Now that I'm a boomer, all that has changed.  I can still imagine myself with the guy who is 40 or 45 except now, I have morphed into the Professor.

Older women have been given a bad wrap.  If we take care of our body, mind and spirit we still have lots to offer.  And fortunately, there are a number of willing participants wanting to find out just what that means.

According to a study done in April by the dating site PlentyofFish.com, more and more women aged thirty and over are looking to date guys five and ten years their junior.  It appears cougars are taking over the jungle.  According to Markus Frind, founder of PlentyofFish.com, Many people look for younger partners hoping for a more exciting relationship.  There's also the experience factor.  Many women are fed up with men their age who lack the stamina and skills to satisfy them.  That may not be true for all of us, but there are plenty of us gals who can relate to what he's saying.

A cougar woman likes herself.  She is sultry, self-confident and has the power to stop men in their tracks.  She's not the skinny, barely-dressed 25 year old - she's much more desirable. Are you ready for the spontaneity, sensuality and pure excitement you deserve?  If the answer is yes, consider yourself timeless.  You have an incredible presence, finesse and sexiness that comes only with maturity.  You, my dear, are a cougar!

To find out how you can be a "Real Cougar" read my two new booklets click here.  "Identifying the Real Cougar" and "Unleashing the Real Cougar" are packed with  valuable secrets no woman can afford to miss.

Comments

[Stacey Little]

I am 38 years old and have recently started dating and living witn a man who is 20. I have never been more happy in my life. My children are 17 and 15 and we all get along great! Unlike the older men I have dated, he is so caring and so respectful of me and my feelings. And he is so much more mature than less selfish than men my age. I really suggest that more people are open minded about this because I would have missed out on the love of my life had I not tried this.

[Jax]

Love is not about age...at 48, many younger men pursued me. I did not take any of them seriously, assuming they were interested only in sex. One 24 year old was quite persistant and after deciding I would spend a little time with him...well, that was 8 months ago. The best part for me is that we never had that talk that older men give you that tells you right away that you will never be more important than his kids or wife #2 and he only wants this or that, blah, blah, blah...This relationship was wide open from the beginning and it has been incredibly fun! We do take offense at commonly used terms such as cougar and boy toy. We let our friends know that our relationship is based on mutual respect and a growing love aside from our sexuality. It has not been easy but we're making it. When I hear the Beetles sing, Will you still love me when I'm 64, I smile and feel warm knowing he will be by my side.
I didn't think I would visit a site like this except to let people know that these terms can be offensive to some different aged couples and that sex is not the primary motive for all such couples. We have deliberately put it on the back burner in order to build on our friendship. His idea...he feels like he needs to prove to his family that is not why we are together. I feel like I have to proven nothing to anyone.
Be careful with the terms you use like you would any situation. Labeling is never a good thing.

[Terry]

Congratulations to any woman or man who has found happiness and love! What has age got to do with anything? My brother met his furure wife when he was 15. He would go to her house and play video games with her 2 sons who were also his age. He says that it was love at 1st sight. She did not reciprocate his affection until he was 18 and let her know how he felt. As it so happened she also felt the pull of love. They kept their relationship a secret for a while and when my parents found out, man, was my mother mad as this woman was the same age as SHE was. No one approved of their relationship except for me.People would say that he would be putting his wife in a nursing home when he was in his 30's. I advised them to go for it and when my brother was 20 they got married. Today they have been married for 17 years and have a 15 yr old son. My brother is 36 and she is now 62 and my brother cannnot keep up with her, still! They are still crazy happy in love with each other and the perfect example of the fact that age is just a number and happiness is ageless!

[Dr. Morlenheim]

Cougars are destroying the fundamental balances of male-female relationships that permit the majority of people a chance to find love and happiness.

I will expose the ramifications about this lifestyle for everyone to see.

We both know you won't approve this comment, fearful of the shame it will bring on you all.

Dr. Morlenheim

[angela]

Well I geuss I write this now in hopes to clarify that a real women can't be classified, she just lives the one life she was given to the fullest with a carefree spirit. My boss referred to me as a "cougar" and if enjoying a younger man puts a smile on my face, allows me to daydream, and showcases my creative side, that simply just means "He does it for me!!" In every sense of the word! Being a "cougar" seems to just mean we are proud of who we are and comfortable enough to know what we want. Having that one person that can make the world dissapear around you with a simple acknowledgment that your his is a feeling to capture not place on age! So live on ladies and capture the moment. ang

[pilotguy747]

So they're called cougars, huh? Interesting. I guess what my brother and I were doing back in the 80's when we were in our 20's would be called "cougar hunting". We'd hit all of the clubs teeming with 40+ divorcees/widows in D.C.(the Yacht Club of Bethesda was our favorite)and had a great time. It's just no one called them cougars back then. They just called them lonely, desparate older women(lonely yes, but not necessarily desparate from my recollection). And I haven't stopped. I'm now 50 and I enjoy women 60 and over just as much as I did when I was younger. And at that age, there's plenty of them to pick from too. I love women! Bless them all!

[Andrea]

I have been dating younger men for the last 17 years. I was never outwardly searching for younger men. They just seemed to be there asking me out. I like the idea that I may be fulfilling their fantasy of being with an older woman. I can only hope I haven't let any of them down. So far, no complaints!

[Anna]

I am going out with a guy same age as my son and we really are happy. No matter what they call us women lets enjoy and be the happiest coz those guys of our ages are dating kids amost as young as their grand daughters but with us its like we have electricity and the chemistry is just magnificent. Yes age is a number but happiness is ageless.

Hola cougars lets show them!!!!!

[jill]

When I was 45 I met a very kind and thoughtful 23 year old man through a freind of mine. This young man was not really much to look at, infact he was not very attractive at all, but there was something about him that attracted me and I really cant tell you what it was. We started a dialogue and soon discovered that we had several things in common and we really like eachother's company as well. He was kind and considerate to me and I had ever had a man treat me so kindly. I also treated him with kindness and respect. We really liked eachother and were very attracted to one another as well. We went several places together and hung out quite a bit.
When things started getting serious and feelings were undeniable, we both pulled back, but for different reasons. He, it turned out, was being given a hard time by his family for dating me, a woman 20 years older than he. He was being railroaded and pressured by his cousins about dating me and to boot his mom was very upset over us and he did not want to upset his mother. He felt so pressured by them. I could never make him turn away from family, and would never want to. So essentially what happened was we had to break up because it was causing him too much trouble and in turn it caused me more stress than it was worth.
I love him and miss him and I know he misses me too, but because of his immaturity and being unable to stand up on his own as a mature man should, he lost someone that was meant for him. Regardless of our age difference there was an incredible, once in a lifetime chemistry and I doubt that either him, nor I will ever meet someone again in this life that is meant for us. We were extremely compatible. It turned out to be very sad.
I do not advocate a relationship with a younger, or an older person.
The tag cougar was given to me by his family and I didnt even know what it was or what they were talking about.
I think the term is disgusting.

[Anon]

I love my boyfriend who is 14.5 years younger than me. (I'm 38.) I would date him no matter what his age -- if he were a lot older than me or even younger than he is. He is the right person for me, and it's because of who he is inside. He is also very attractive and sexy to me. I know he loves me, too, and hope it stays this way between us. I could see staying with him forever. If we did break up, I would never hesitate to date a younger man again.

[Char]

I am definately a cougar... and have no shame. I do not persue the young men who ask me out. They are persistant and polite. Even seem to be much more considerate than their older counterparts. I believe most have more respect for an older woman, than the man dating a younger woman. I certainly feel that they appreciate me more than older men. I once was told by an older man to "respect my elders" on the first date... ya, I assure you there was not a chance for a second date. Younger men are still excited about life, and carry a passion that I do not see as much in older men. Older men seem set in there ways and are very resistant to change. I am a successful, beautiful, independent 41 year young woman. I blend well with men in their 20's and early 30's. I totally enjoy the feeling of being with a younger man. It keeps me disciplined with my own life, to look good and feel good. I wouldn't have it any other way. I no longer care what others opinion of my actions are. As long as both partners are adults and happy with each other, then age should not be an issue.

[Phil]

I don't like the term "cougar" - it sounds like a predator.

I have been married to a wonderful woman 17 years my senior for the past 14 years and we have a 12 year old boy. I'm 35, she's 52.

Sex isn't a big deal. Like any married couple, we're lucky to have time once or twice a month...so I wish people would stop thinking this is why older women like younger men.

I've never dated "older women" because they were older. I dated them because I like the appearance of a woman who looks like she's between 38 and 60. I suppose you could relate that to the guy who insists on having a skinny, tiny framed "trophy wife".

We both have our Master's degree. We're both entrepreneurs with our own companies. We're both happy. Age is not and has never been an issue.

And for the post below mine from "lurdabruzzi@yahoo.com" - seriously man, you won't attract anyone, even 15 year old girls your age if you keep talking like you've just texted from your cell phone... "coz" isn't a word.

[Abruzzi]

Hey there all COUGAR here.I really admire you all..Well i am young man who really likes the cougar coz of their experience.I hope we be friends.I have a real good friend she is the greatest and i can't do without her.
lurdabruzzi@yahoo.com

[Anita]

I like the term cougar. I have always been asked out on dates by younger men. I am 46 and my fiancee' is 25 we have been dating and living together for 2 years. I am just starting to feel comfortable about our relationship. He has never had a problem with our relationship. At first I had a problem with my children. Then I was too embaressed to be seen with him in public. I have always had the feeling of being judged by others. Then the ladies that assume he was my son. He always laughed an got a kick out of it. But I do enjoy the relationship. We have a lot in common. But we do have our problems. I don't know if I am really a cougar. I do enjoy the life we have together. I know I would do all again for the extreme joy. So as one cougar to another I say go for it. ENJOY!

[Jennifer]

I have always dated older men. About 2 years ago I noticed that younger men were asking me out and older men whom I had dated were now dating women my daughters ages. I was dumbfounded. After several offers I decided to start dating but set a cut off age. No one under the age of my oldest child. I dated a couple and found them to be delightful and energetic. What they lacked in material things they more than made up for in energy and activity. I am now engaged to a man who is younger than my oldest and a few years older than my youngest. We all get along great and my children have asked me why I waited so long to join a growing group. I have laughed more, lived more and stopped worrying so much about gray hair and wrinkles. Younger men aren't after you for your youthful appearance. They love you for who you really are. They want someone in their lives who knows what she is and what she wants. They don't want someone who is still trying to figure out how they fit into the big picture. I have asked my soon to be husband why me. He has told me in different ways but always the same thing. I am comfortable with what I am and what I am not. I don't play games to make him prove his love for me and I have no problem with taking chances on new things. To all the cougar women out there, Kuddos. You have decided that age is simply a number and happiness is ageless.

[Melany]

I was married to a man 10 years older than me and we lasted for 11 years. I had no idea that I would have anything in common with a younger man until I met the love of my life. He is 17 years younger and he has given me a new lease on life.

Not only do I provide him with stability, attention and great sex, he in turns provides me with laughter, youthfulness and great sex!

We truly are in love and we both don't care what anyone says about our situation because they are not experiencing the electricity we feel when we touch.

Proud to be a cougar
:) Mel

[NANCI]

I live with and have been engaged to a man 14 years my junior for the past 3 years. I used to
be very closed minded and was only interested in older men. What a mistake!!!!
I personally know several women that are cougars and they totally enjoy their relationships. This has definitely got to be
a growing trend. My fiancee' says that he enjoys an older women due to the maturity level and the sophistication. I am very active and sometimes he has a hard time keeping up with me and my adventurous ways. He says that is what is so intriguing. I have no doubt that if we ever broke up that he would seek another cougar!!!!!!

[Linda]

I'm a 52 year old woman.I've been told my whole life that I exude sex. I've always felt much younger then I am. 10 years ago I was dating guys 10 years my junior and still do. never has my age been a problem with these lovely Lads, and this was way before anyone thought up the cougar tag. For years I was told that at some point I would become invisible and for sure would have to cut my hair. Well, I haven't done either. I first heard of cougars about a month ago, but instead of the word cougar, this guy (an older man) called them coyotes. My first reaction was being pissed off that once again when we ladies want to have fun sexually we get tagged with a "bad" label. When I found out the real name I not only loved it and the concept but realized that I was one and had been one for a while.

[anonymous]

Hey, I'm 29 and found a great guy who's 8 years younger than me. We go to college together and I sometimes forget he's younger because he has a younger sister and is protective of both of us. We're always on the same page and have a lot of love and respect for each other, so it's awesome. Besides being physically attracted, there is so much more to it than that if you're in it for the long run. I'm not really in this for my ego either, we just clicked big time and love being around each other all the time.

[Carla]

Thank you for defining a true cougar. I am really tired of reading about overly made-up, coiffed, nearly-desperate women who dress like teenagers, smoke, and want a lot of casual sex. I definitely identify more with your description. Thanks for showing the world "Real Cougars"!

[Oliver]

I really enjoyed this post. I started am age gap dating site, Cougared.com last year because I kept reading about the trend, and in fact I saw it with my own eyes in bars and with one or two friends who started dating older women.

On my site we have loads of older women who are looking for younger men to date and they are far from desperate or needy ladies. The majority seem to be intelligent, sophisticated women who have decided that a younger guy more fits in with her lifestyle choices. It's a trend that I can only see growing, so it looks like the cougars are here to stay!

Anyway, keep up the great blog, and best wishes,
Oliver.